IF YOU suspect your man's getting ready to call it quits on your relationship, there are a few signs to look out for.
Body language expert Judi James has revealed the subtle clues that mean he's about to dump you – including foot tapping and touching his hair.
While there might be some obvious signs he's just not that into you, much of his behaviour might go unnoticed.
That is, of course, unless you know what to look for, such as your partner's pupils which could reveal his true intentions, Judi told FEMAIL.
Here, we share what to look out for and the signs that indicate his looming departure, according to the expert.
1. Metronomic rituals or signs of stress
What is that, we hear you say. Well, drumming of the fingers, tapping his feet, or shaking of the leg – these are all metronomic gestures that indicate "impatience".
Judi said there's often a sense of impatience at the end of a relationship and these non-verbal cues often show his eagerness to "get the actual dumping over and done with."
What's more, a break up is always a stressful time, so look out for an increase in "signals of stress, pressure and anxiety" as well.
This could be an accelerated blink rate, a contraction of the shoulder and neck muscles, head rubbing, lip licking or the inability to sit still.
If they are feeling stressed,Judi said to look out for "self comforting gestures" such as "fiddling, hair-preening and face-touching."
Similarly, "self-attack behaviours," such as biting their lips, cracking their knuckles or biting their nails are also an indicator.
She suggested looking at the side of his cheek as he talks, and if there's a muscle there working, he might just be "suppressing irritation or boredom."
3. Change in facial expression and body language
Loved up couples will often touch each other non-stop, or at the very least remain close enough to do so, Judi said.
"When a split is looming on the horizon, not only will touch rituals decrease but these intentional gestures will be replaced by barrier rituals," she explained.
This could mean carrying his phone or bag to avoid hand holding, or sitting crossed-legged to avoid foot touching.
What's more, the "look of love" which commonly refers to a softened eye expression – relaxed muscles, slightly risen cheeks and soft lips – will change too.
An alteration of that expression is often the first signal that a relationship is on its uppers, Judi told the publication.
Loved up couples will also mirror each other's attitudes or gestures, so when this stops, he's about to bow out for good.
She explained that when someone "tunes out emotionally" the "natural choreography" will no longer exist, so pay attention to his body language.
4. Increase in phone use
For someone who's keen on ending thier relationship, their phone is "the perfect distraction", according to Judi, who added it's often their "escape".
While it takes them away from their time spent with you, it also allows them to seek support and sympathy from loved ones.
She also said they'll become "ferociously protective of their phone" and explained this could be because of an affair, or that they "see it as a private lifeline to friends".
5. Examine his eyes
According to Judi, the eyes are the most expressive part of the body and you'll be able to learn a lot just by looking at his.
"A partner on the brink of breaking up will tend to avoid eye contact at all costs, looking down or away or keeping busy with small tasks like continuing to look at their phone or their keypad while you are talking," shesaid.
He may also shot a glance your way when you aren't paying attention and look away when you meet his stare.
This is a clear sign he's role-playing the split in his mind and working out how you might feel when it happens.
More specifically, Judi explained that our pupils dilate when we look at someone we love, so "expect to see those pupils contracted when they look at you" if he's no longer into you.
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6. Mocking expression
Often, Judi said your partner will try to paint you as the bad guy and this is so they feel less guilty about the break up.
This is what she referred to as the "denial process" which aims to protect their own ego, and it will often cause over-reactions.
Eye-rolling, sighing or throwing out their arms are all clear signs of this, as well as provoking arguments over small things.
What's more, your man could put you down to his friends in hope they convince him to leave you, which in turn will make him feel less guilty about his decision.
Preparing for a break up could also mean preparing to jump back into the dating game, which is what the expert referred to as "peacocking".
"Expect their eye to be caught by every mirror they pass, plus some exaggerated body posturing like leg splaying and chest-puffing in a man and back-arching and pouting in a woman," she explained.
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