Couples have sex on average seven times a month but a third don't like talking about it with their partners

COMMUNICATION is key in any relationship but despite couples having sex seven times a month on average, many don't feel comfortable talking about it with their partners.

A survey of 2,000 sexually active adults found that one third don't like to openly discuss the subject with their partners – and it often takes five whole months before bringing it up.

It takes that amount of time for many couples to feel comfortable before actively discussing sex, such as desires or discomforts and a fifth say they won’t bring it up AT ALL during a relationship.

The survey, commissioned by Durex, also found that nearly half of adults often experience physical discomfort during sex as a result of vaginal dryness, but just over a third won’t talk about it – even though being dry is totally normal.

Lindsay Forbes, from Durex, said: “Our aim at Durex is to liberate good sex for all.

"For women, who can be naturally drier down there for up to two-thirds of the month, that may well involve lube.

"Indeed, nine out of 10 women say sex feels better with it.

"Yet it remains disproportionately stigmatised – in part, because we’re uncomfortable even talking about the problem, much less doing anything about it.

"What we want to achieve is to normalise natural dryness, normalise the conversation and encourage women to reach for lube as we know nine out of ten women say sex feels better with it."

The survey also found adults are so keen to side-step the subject of vaginal dryness that 27 per cent would rather just cope with it than discuss it with the other person.

And with half of those polled considering sex to be a ‘taboo’ subject, it leaves adults feeling awkward, embarrassed and avoiding the topic altogether.

If they do feel able to discuss the topic of sex more openly, 34 per cent will talk to friends.

While 20 per cent will talk to their mum about their experience regarding physically uncomfortable sex, due to reasons like vaginal dryness.

Almost a quarter of those polled don’t feel comfortable talking openly about sex because they don’t want to upset anyone’s feelings, while 15 per cent didn’t know how to approach the issue.

But it’s not just sex which people struggle to be more vocal about, as masturbation (27 per cent), using sex toys (17 per cent) or discussing pornography (14 per cent) were also seen as taboo subjects.

It also emerged 61 per cent of those polled via OnePoll have used lubricant when engaging in sexual activities – but 15 per cent consider this to be something you use in a bid to be more ‘adventurous’, as opposed to a way of helping vaginal dryness.

Leading “sexpert”, Dr. Naomi Sutton, of E4’s The Sex Clinic, and partner with Durex, said: “When it comes to good, comfortable sex, wetter really is better.

“I’ve partnered with Durex as I stand by empowering sexually active women to own their sexual comfort.

“’Moist is one of the most disliked and uncomfortable words in the English language – if we can all get comfortable with moist, then a little tube that helps us stay moist, won’t seem so uncomfortable will it?

“With Durex’s help, let’s work to open up the conversations around uncomfortable sex and smash down the walls of awkwardness.”

Plus a couple get paid having marathon five hour sex sessions on camera in front of strangers – and say it’s made their relationship stronger.

And porn star parents who film sex scenes around the school run insist they love their job despite being disowned by family.

Meanwhile,  this sex expert reveals the "gross habits" that men need to stop "immediately."

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