My daughter-in-law seems intent on pushing me out

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M not sure what is behind it but my daughter-in-law seems to have a real issue with me.

My only son met her four years ago and I’ve hardly been invited to his home since. I’m 55, my son is 28 and she is 26.

She moved in after six months and seemed very determined to stamp her mark.

It is always me who makes the effort, inviting them here or suggesting we all meet for lunch.

What hurts most is that my son’s father left me for someone else ten years ago and she invites him and his new wife around regularly.

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I’d love to see my son more and be involved in his life.

They are getting married next summer and have a baby on the way so I really need to sort this out.

DEIDRE SAYS: I can almost hear the urgency in your email. It’s understandable that you want to be more involved with your first grandchild on the way.

Perhaps your daughter-in-law has a bad relationship with her own mum and struggles to relate to you. Most likely she just hasn’t considered your perspective.

Once she has her baby, she will become more aware of life from a parent’s perspective.

But in the meantime offer to help with the wedding and suggest the pair of you go shopping for the baby. This will help the two of you bond.

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